The statement nobody is always fine is profoundly true in two different ways. You can look at it from a human perspective as well as a spiritual one. Both perspectives are powerful in their own way. Depending on where you are coming from they each hold the key to decrease suffering and foster healing. Let’s have a look!
Looking at the statement nobody is always fine from a human perspective allows us to let go of pretense. Nobody, as in: not a single human being on this planet, is fine all the time. If this is indeed true, then we can allow ourselves to be just that – not fine sometimes.
In an average week, how many times do you see those around you wearing a happy mask, playing a cheerful role and pretending to be totally fine? How many times do you yourself pretend to be fine when you’re actually not?
If it is part of our human experience to be unwell at times, why do we pretent to be outside of this natural law?
Maybe we want to be in control (control is an expression of fear). We want to appear as though we’ve got it all together. We’ve got it all figured out! We actually don’t, but it would be terrifying to admit that, so we keep up the charade.
Another comon reason for pretending to be fine is the fear of judgement. At all costs we want to avoid being seen as weak or flustered. What would others think of us? How would they talk about us behind our backs?
This behavior is rooted in insecurity and that’s perfectly understandable, too. However, there’s a profound chance right here to decrease suffering and foster healing.
Stop pretending to be fine and embrace the entirety of yourself as it is in this moment!
It’s ok to have a human experience. After all that’s what you’re here for, isn’t it? If you manage to take the leap of faith and allow yourself to be unwell in front of others you unconsciously give others permission to do the same. What a relief and energy saver!
Looking at the statement nobody is always fine from a spiritual perspective allows us to let go of entanglement and identification. Nobody, as in: the part of us that is no body but pure consciousness, is indeed always and all the time perfectly fine. If this is indeed true, then we can allow ourselves to let go of worrysome thoughts and let the waves of emotions simply wash over and pass away.
For those of you who are not so familiar with the spiritual perspective, let’s first clarify what I’m writing about. In spiritual teachings it is assumed that we have something called the true self, the essence, the spirit that inhabits the body and mind, but it itself is not the body and mind. It is perfectly free, peaceful and happy all the time. We all have this true self within us and it waits to be experienced. In fact, most essentially, we already are this true self right now.
If we manage to go beyond our identification with being this body and mind experientially and look out from the (spiritual) perspective of our true self, then what’s the problem?
Thoughts are coming and going. Emotions are coming and going. Why would the depths of the ocean worry about waves passing on the surface?
In an average week, how many times do you get entangled with worrysome thoughts about the past or the future? How many times do you attach yourself to your emotions and can’t let them go?