If your wellbeing depends on the validation, acknowledgement and attention of others it is very likely that you experience an emotional rollercoaster as a consequence. This is the side-effect of having an external first focus point.
Turning your focus around 180° and shifting into an internal first focus point renders external validation obsolete. If your source of wellbeing lies within you and you draw validation and acknowledgement from the inside, then external sources are no longer needed. They turn into a nice addon – a bonus.
This Clarity Clip summarizes the concept in a nutshell:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=560ayn6H7XY
»If you only play for the applause, your happiness is in the hands of the audience.«
Playing for yourself instead of an audience means turning your focus from outside in. This creates independence of outside factors.
Playing for the joy of playing instead of expecting a reward means turning your focus from outcome to process. This creates independence of the outcome.
As a possibility dance like no one's watching just for the sheer joy of it and regardless of who's watching.